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Scenes are where the real business of writing takes place. Scenes are a gathering together of set-ups and payoffs, of ideas and perspectives, of hopes and disappointments, of plot and story.

A scene is to story structure what a heartbeat is to the body, the pulse that sets the reader alive. You create this rhythm by what you bring to each scene, by making use of the human senses to describe the action and the setting from the point of view of your character.

 As Chuck Palahniuk says:

“Your story will always be stronger if you just show the physical actions and details of your characters and allow your reader to do the thinking and knowing.  And loving and hating.”

 This workshop offers you the opportunity to find how to breathe new life into your scenes.

Ask any writer you know if they have a fear of actually sitting down and putting words on the page. Most will confess to have a long list of often ‘valid’ ways to avoid the challenge of their writing practice.

There are some exceptions. Popular writer James Patterson signed a book deal in 2009 to write 17 books by the end of 2012.   That’s a book every three months.  In the last 12 months he earned US$91 million.  If he’s scared it he doesn’t let it stop him writing.

The rest of us are mostly cowards who avoid the hard stuff   with similar excuses we use to avoid physical exercise.  It’s too cold, I’m tired, and I’m too old to start, what’s the point?;  any reason to postpone taking action. Whatever way you look at it, it’s not the actual practice that causes procrastination, but the fear of failure. Do I have the tenacity, the imagination, the skills I need to write?:  why would anyone want to read my story?; I’ve got too many pressures;  I need to do the laundry.

Memoir writing has its special scary devil called – The Truth.  Avoiding the truth, whether it’s being afraid of what others will think or upsetting our own family, or, worst of all, having to dig into those dark places where our own truth lies buried is especially tough for memoir writers.

This workshop we will talk about these fears.  I’ll show you some of the psychological skills that I use to push past the scary stuff, as well a couple of practical devices that really work for me and other writers I know.

Participants in this workshop will have the opportunity to discuss their work and the specific problems they are face with at this point of the their memoir project.  Limited places. More details to come.


Address: 18 Kauri Court, Ourimbah
10:00am to 4:00pm
Eileen Naseby
0416 181 645 or
Cost: $120 per workshop, includes lunch

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Searching for Self


David Eye

 There’s more to you than meets the eye      

Skeletons & Dirty Linen | Advanced One-Day Memoir Writing Workshop

How much do we really know about ourselves? There’s the Open Self we let others see, and the Private Self, the parts we hide. There are also two more selves we rarely encounter. The Blind Self, which is what others see in us that we cannot see, and the most enigmatic of all the Undiscovered or Unknown Self.

This workshop will demonstrate how to better understand the relationships at play in your memoir, and how to reveal these, and all those ‘unknown’ factors, to your readers.

Thank you so much for a wonderful day on Sunday it was truly enjoyable, motivating and helpful – like minded interesting people with fascinating stories to tell, ideas and solutions related directly to our struggles with the pen, inspiration – led from the top guiding us to the next level. Not to mention fabulous food and a great kitchen hand!!  

Carolynn King, workshop participant

 DATE                        Sunday July 14

TIME                         10.00am – 4.00pm

PLACE                     18 Kauri Court, Ourimbah?

COST                        $120.00  including lunch

 Bookings & Info | Contact Eileen

0416 181 645 or

Starting June 24 & June 26 – Central Memoir Writing Workshops- Day & Evening Classes

Kick Start Your Memoir - Skeletons & Dirty Linen

Week 1. Learning to let go

Using examples and exercises, you will discover how to let go of your natural inhibitions so you can free yourself to write creatively.

Week 2. Marinate your head with research

Information gathering can be both exciting and rewarding, and the more you discover, the richer your story will be.  You will find how to maximise your research skills using specific techniques and resources.

Week 3.  Use detail to tell it how it really was

Every scene should say ‘it happened like this’ instead  ‘this is what happened.’ At any given moment our lives are determined by a myriad influences. ‘Am I feeling hot; are my feet aching; am I in a hurry; what am I hoping for; or what have I just lost?’

Week 4. Looking from the outside

The structure of any memoir writing project revolves around pivotal turning points linking the present to its past and future. Discover how to find the beginning, middle and end of your chapters as well as your story.

Daytime Workshops

Wednesday June 26, July 3, 10 & 17

10.00- 12.00am

Evening Workshops

June 24, July 1, 8  & 15


4 Workshops Only $140.00

  For bookings and information contact Eileen on 0416 181 645 







Who are your favourite memoir writers?

I need your feedback!

As a life writing mentor I’m often asked who are my favourite memoir writers. So, I’m creating a list starting with five of my old favourites. I’ll eventually post the list on Skeletons & Dirty Linen

After a lifetime of reading it was quite hard to narrow down my choices, and it was only after I made my selection I realised every writer I had chosen has their own unique voice.  This showed me where my heart really lies when it comes to reading. I’ve included some examples so you’ll see what I mean.

Let me know your favourites so I can add yours to the list. Tell me why if you have the time.

1. Henry Miller, The Colossus of Maroussi
“Greece is not a small country – it is impressively vast. No country I have visited has given me such sense of grandeur. Size is not created by mileage always… Greece could swallow both the United States and Europe. Greece is a little like China or India…”

2. Amos Oz
“The city, Jerusalem, where people schlepped along the streets: “If we picked up our foot someone else might come along and snatch our little strip of land. On the other hand, once you have lifted your foot, do not be in a hurry to put it down again… time and time again we have fallen into the hands of our enemies because we put our foot down without looking where we were putting them.”

3. Joan Didion, The Year of Magical Thinking
“Grief turns out to be a place none of us know until we reach it. We anticipate (we know) that someone close to us could die, but we do not look beyond the few days or weeks that immediately follow such an imagined death. We misconstrue the nature of even those few days or weeks. We might expect if the death is sudden to feel shock. We do not expect this shock to be obliterative, dislocating to both body and mind. We might expect that we will be prostrate, inconsolable, crazy with loss. We do not expect to be literally crazy, cool customers who believe their husband is about to return and need his shoes.”

4. Janet Frame, Angel at My Table
“From the first place of liquid darkness, within the second place of air and light, I set down the following record with its mixture of fact and truths and memories of truths and its direction always toward the Third Place, where the starting point is myth.”

5. Austin Burroughs, Running with Scissors
“My mother is standing in front of the bathroom mirror smelling polished and ready; like Jean Nate, Dippity Do and the waxy sweetness of lipstick. Her white, handgun-shaped blow-dryer is lying on top of the wicker clothes hamper, ticking as it cools. She stands back and smoothes her hands down the front of her swirling, psychedelic Pucci dress, biting the inside of her cheek. “Damn it,” she says, “something isn’t right.”

Structure and Story: An Achievable Marriage?

Last week I met with a former workshop participant to talk about the memoir she is writing. Her research has uncovered a cast of very interesting characters and stories. Her writing is also quite advanced, but she now finds herself struggling to integrate her story into a structure that works. Most memoir writers find themselves in this situation at some point in their writing journey. Life itself is incredibly complex, which means writing about life is likely to be just as complex, or even more so.

By coincidence the same day I went to a friend’s book launch. Kris Olsson is a beautiful writer. Her previous book The China Garden won the 2010 Barbara Jeffries award for the best novel written by an Australian author. Kris’s new book Boy, Lost, her long-lost brother’s story, is awash with complexity. Her brutal first husband snatched Peter from his mother’s arms, and it was 40 years before mother and son were reunited. This book is a brilliant depiction of individual grief and suffering, and of the fallout a terrible incident like this can have on generations of families. We are also left to ponder the wider ramifications of a system that still fails to protect the rights and needs of children who are stolen, abandoned or neglected.

Boy, Lost is also a perfect example of how to manage structure. I tread this path almost daily, so I am in awe of what Kris has achieved. She manages to switch back and forth from time-frame to time-frame, from character to character, and point-of-view to point-of-view without ever losing you. I understand the amount of work that must have gone into creating a structure so seamless it is the meaning, not the effort that finally shines through.

Story and Structure will be one of a series of one-day advanced Skeletons & Dirty Linen workshops I will be announcing shortly. Please let me know if you are interested in finding out more details.

The Fool’s Guide to Mastering Time

I used to be a very poor time manager. Managing multiple tasks under pressure was a nightmare. I’d leap about so much from task to task I never seemed to get anything done properly. Then I discovered a secret weapon to deal with this ferocious enemy called time. This weapon is incredibly simple to implement, but produces really amazing results when it’s used consistently. It’s brilliance is it’s instant and ongoing effectiveness. Above all, I swear it makes self-discipline a piece of cake, and it’s free.

This weapon is called the POMODORO. The creators claim it eliminates the anxiety of time and, more importantly for me, enhances and focuses my concentration. By using the Pomodoro I am always able to create order out of any chaos. It’s a complete mystery to me how something so simple actually works every time. I find this mystery quite magical.

The Pomodoro Technique is a time-management method created by Francesco Cirillo in the 1980’s and will help you accomplish what you want to do by transforming time into a valuable ally. The Pomodoro Technique is named after the tomato-shaped kitchen timer that was first used by Cirillo when he was a university student.

The Pomodoro is completely free, easy to use, and, most of all, it works! I have introduced it to students and writing friends who love it. Put simply, before you begin your task you set a timer for 25 minutes. During this period you focus only on that task. You don’t look at emails, go to the bathroom, or make a telephone call. You allow nothing to distract you. The timer on my mobile phone is switched on right now. If my husband comes into my office right this minute, I’ll say ‘Pomodoro’. He has learned that this means I won’t stop so he just slides away.

Because I believe that too much structure is an anathema to creativity, I implement the technique at its most basic level using these five basic steps:

1. Decide on the task to be done
2. Set the Pomodoro (timer) to 25 minutes
3. Work on the task until the timer rings
4. Take a short break (3-5 minutes)
5. Every four “Pomodoros” take a longer break (15–30 minutes)

If you run out of time you have to stop, even if you are in the middle of a sentence when the bell rings. There are so many times I have been really annoyed by this ‘interruption,’ but because I am now disciplined I really do stop instantly, then I can’t wait to get back and finish my sentence or task. So the 5-minute break actually creates a renewed impetus to get going again.

On the other hand if the task finishes before 25 minutes, you get the opportunity to go over what you have been doing instead of just getting up and walking away. The extra time can be used for polishing whether it’s editing or the furniture. This is also the time when really interesting ideas can pop up out of the blue.

I find the Pomodoro useful for the simple and onerous tasks, not just for writing. It’s amazing how quickly you can clean up the kitchen using this technique. This is such a great tool for time-management; I often plan a busy day by first assessing the number of Pomodoros each separate task will take, and then scheduling the tasks according to their priority. Because I work from home this is usually a mixture of writing as well as household chores. Generally I make sure I use the 4th Pomodoro to do a domestic task so I can give my head a break.

Another support tool you can use in tandem with the Pomodoro is an Internet blocker. I use a productivity application that shuts down your access to your email and locks you away for the Internet for selected periods of time up to eight hours. Freedom.

Every time I find myself falling back into my old chaotic methods I soon realise it’s because I have stopped using the Pomodoro. If you do decide to give this a go I’d really love to get your feedback.

Kurt Vonnegut once said, “We have to continually be jumping off cliffs and developing our wings on the way down.”  Next time I’ll tell you about my own flying lessons.


A hotel bed, a bottle of sherry & the bible – a famous writer’s method of perserverance

I came across a fascinating interview with  American writer Maya Angelou in my collected Paris  Review  Interviews. Angelou is the author of the bestselling memoir, The Caged Bird Sings.  She has some  serious things to say about  the beauty of language, about melody  and  the extraordinary events of her life. However what stood out for me was the working environment she had created for herself. The excerpt below clearly demonstrates it  doesn’t matter how and where  we write as long as it helps us to keep writing.

If  you are really  interested in memoir writing you must read the rest of this inspiring interview Maya Angelou, The Art of Fiction No. 119


You once told me that you write lying on a made-up bed with a bottle of sherry, a dictionary, Roget’s Thesaurus, yellow pads, an ashtray, and a Bible….


And is the bottle of sherry for the end of the day or to fuel the imagination?


I might have it at six-fifteen a.m. just as soon as I get in, but usually it’s about eleven o’clock when I’ll have a glass of sherry.


When you are refreshed by the Bible and the sherry, how do you start a day’s work?


I have kept a hotel room in every town I’ve ever lived in. I rent a hotel room for a few months, leave my home at six, and try to be at work by six-thirty. To write, I lie across the bed, so that this elbow is absolutely encrusted at the end, just so rough with callouses. I never allow the hotel people to change the bed, because I never sleep there. I stay until twelve-thirty or one-thirty in the afternoon, and then I go home and try to breathe; I look at the work around five; I have an orderly dinner—proper, quiet, lovely dinner; and then I go back to work the next morning. Sometimes in hotels I’ll go into the room and there’ll be a note on the floor which says, Dear Miss Angelou, let us change the sheets. We think they are moldy. But I only allow them to come in and empty wastebaskets. I insist that all things are taken off the walls. I don’t want anything in there. I go into the room and I feel as if all my beliefs are suspended. Nothing holds me to anything. No milkmaids, no flowers, nothing. I just want to feel and then when I start to work I’ll remember. I’ll read something, maybe the Psalms, maybe, again, something from Mr. Dunbar, James Weldon Johnson. And I’ll remember how beautiful, how pliable the language is, how it will lend itself.


Second Meeting Sydney Memoir Writers Meetup Group

My   Skeletons and Dirty Linen blog has been silent since the beginning of May, but my life is now on an even keel again and  I am about to publish some new pieces very soon.  Make  sure you subscribe to my blog so you can be notified when these happen.

We had a great get-together of the Sydney Memoir Writers Meetup Group on Sunday August 4 at Berkelouw Books Paddington.  Lots of interchange of the ideas and experiences from the ten writers on theme of the insecurity we all experience about the quality of our writing.  Most of us read a two-minute piece that had been written since the last Meetup.  What didn’t surprise me was the writers who had the most reservations about the own work had actually written some of the best pieces.  In my own experience fear of failure inevitably forces us from the shallows to the deeper places where the truth is more likely to lie.

We also discussed Gore Vida’s memoir Palimpsest He opens his book with a suggestion that A Tissue of Lies would have been a more persuasively apt title for a memoir.  He boasts at having gone ‘mano a mano’  with some of the great liars of his time, and whether we should draw any lines between fiction and fact. This led to a great Meetup discussion on where and when it is ok to make stuff up.

Several people described the success they had to managing their writing time using the Pomodoro technique we discussed at out last Meetup. The Pomodoro is a simple and clever time management system that splits everything you do into 25-minute modules.  I use it for everything including cleaning the bathroom. It’s inventor, Francesco Cirillo, claims it eliminates the anxiety of time. It is a mystery to me why it works, but this is exactly what it does.   Have a look for yourself if  you’re interested.


Ursula – the journey of a memoir

When Murdoch Books asked if I would write my mother’s life story, I was a bit gobsmacked.  I’d been working on the Australian Memory series for Murdochs, and  was having Christmas drinks  with some the  publishing staff.  The conversation drifted to parents and I told them how, in  1945, my mother had taken me, as a two year old, from Palestine to London. We travelled  through the Mediterranean aboard a passenger ship guarded by a flotilla of British warships She was on a romantic mission to join her lover, the man who later became my stepfather. Hazel Flynn, Murdoch’s editor, heard this story and thought my mother sounded fascinating. She was right, but what Hazel didn’t know was, I didn’t really like my mother. We’d battled all our lives and I couldn’t think how I could write about our relationship and expect readers to feel any empathy for her.

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About Eileen Naseby


In 2006 Murdoch Books published ‘Ursula- A Voyage of Love and Danger’, my mother’s memoir. I am now in the process of completing a work of fiction.

Email me at: en(at)eileennaseby(dot)com

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