Sydney Memoir Writers Meetup Group

Searching for Self


David Eye

 There’s more to you than meets the eye      

Skeletons & Dirty Linen | Advanced One-Day Memoir Writing Workshop

How much do we really know about ourselves? There’s the Open Self we let others see, and the Private Self, the parts we hide. There are also two more selves we rarely encounter. The Blind Self, which is what others see in us that we cannot see, and the most enigmatic of all the Undiscovered or Unknown Self.

This workshop will demonstrate how to better understand the relationships at play in your memoir, and how to reveal these, and all those ‘unknown’ factors, to your readers.

Thank you so much for a wonderful day on Sunday it was truly enjoyable, motivating and helpful – like minded interesting people with fascinating stories to tell, ideas and solutions related directly to our struggles with the pen, inspiration – led from the top guiding us to the next level. Not to mention fabulous food and a great kitchen hand!!  

Carolynn King, workshop participant

 DATE                        Sunday July 14

TIME                         10.00am – 4.00pm

PLACE                     18 Kauri Court, Ourimbah?

COST                        $120.00  including lunch

 Bookings & Info | Contact Eileen

0416 181 645 or

Starting June 24 & June 26 – Central Memoir Writing Workshops- Day & Evening Classes

Kick Start Your Memoir - Skeletons & Dirty Linen

Week 1. Learning to let go

Using examples and exercises, you will discover how to let go of your natural inhibitions so you can free yourself to write creatively.

Week 2. Marinate your head with research

Information gathering can be both exciting and rewarding, and the more you discover, the richer your story will be.  You will find how to maximise your research skills using specific techniques and resources.

Week 3.  Use detail to tell it how it really was

Every scene should say ‘it happened like this’ instead  ‘this is what happened.’ At any given moment our lives are determined by a myriad influences. ‘Am I feeling hot; are my feet aching; am I in a hurry; what am I hoping for; or what have I just lost?’

Week 4. Looking from the outside

The structure of any memoir writing project revolves around pivotal turning points linking the present to its past and future. Discover how to find the beginning, middle and end of your chapters as well as your story.

Daytime Workshops

Wednesday June 26, July 3, 10 & 17

10.00- 12.00am

Evening Workshops

June 24, July 1, 8  & 15


4 Workshops Only $140.00

  For bookings and information contact Eileen on 0416 181 645 







The Fool’s Guide to Mastering Time

I used to be a very poor time manager. Managing multiple tasks under pressure was a nightmare. I’d leap about so much from task to task I never seemed to get anything done properly. Then I discovered a secret weapon to deal with this ferocious enemy called time. This weapon is incredibly simple to implement, but produces really amazing results when it’s used consistently. It’s brilliance is it’s instant and ongoing effectiveness. Above all, I swear it makes self-discipline a piece of cake, and it’s free.

This weapon is called the POMODORO. The creators claim it eliminates the anxiety of time and, more importantly for me, enhances and focuses my concentration. By using the Pomodoro I am always able to create order out of any chaos. It’s a complete mystery to me how something so simple actually works every time. I find this mystery quite magical.

The Pomodoro Technique is a time-management method created by Francesco Cirillo in the 1980’s and will help you accomplish what you want to do by transforming time into a valuable ally. The Pomodoro Technique is named after the tomato-shaped kitchen timer that was first used by Cirillo when he was a university student.

The Pomodoro is completely free, easy to use, and, most of all, it works! I have introduced it to students and writing friends who love it. Put simply, before you begin your task you set a timer for 25 minutes. During this period you focus only on that task. You don’t look at emails, go to the bathroom, or make a telephone call. You allow nothing to distract you. The timer on my mobile phone is switched on right now. If my husband comes into my office right this minute, I’ll say ‘Pomodoro’. He has learned that this means I won’t stop so he just slides away.

Because I believe that too much structure is an anathema to creativity, I implement the technique at its most basic level using these five basic steps:

1. Decide on the task to be done
2. Set the Pomodoro (timer) to 25 minutes
3. Work on the task until the timer rings
4. Take a short break (3-5 minutes)
5. Every four “Pomodoros” take a longer break (15–30 minutes)

If you run out of time you have to stop, even if you are in the middle of a sentence when the bell rings. There are so many times I have been really annoyed by this ‘interruption,’ but because I am now disciplined I really do stop instantly, then I can’t wait to get back and finish my sentence or task. So the 5-minute break actually creates a renewed impetus to get going again.

On the other hand if the task finishes before 25 minutes, you get the opportunity to go over what you have been doing instead of just getting up and walking away. The extra time can be used for polishing whether it’s editing or the furniture. This is also the time when really interesting ideas can pop up out of the blue.

I find the Pomodoro useful for the simple and onerous tasks, not just for writing. It’s amazing how quickly you can clean up the kitchen using this technique. This is such a great tool for time-management; I often plan a busy day by first assessing the number of Pomodoros each separate task will take, and then scheduling the tasks according to their priority. Because I work from home this is usually a mixture of writing as well as household chores. Generally I make sure I use the 4th Pomodoro to do a domestic task so I can give my head a break.

Another support tool you can use in tandem with the Pomodoro is an Internet blocker. I use a productivity application that shuts down your access to your email and locks you away for the Internet for selected periods of time up to eight hours. Freedom.

Every time I find myself falling back into my old chaotic methods I soon realise it’s because I have stopped using the Pomodoro. If you do decide to give this a go I’d really love to get your feedback.

Kurt Vonnegut once said, “We have to continually be jumping off cliffs and developing our wings on the way down.”  Next time I’ll tell you about my own flying lessons.


A hotel bed, a bottle of sherry & the bible – a famous writer’s method of perserverance

I came across a fascinating interview with  American writer Maya Angelou in my collected Paris  Review  Interviews. Angelou is the author of the bestselling memoir, The Caged Bird Sings.  She has some  serious things to say about  the beauty of language, about melody  and  the extraordinary events of her life. However what stood out for me was the working environment she had created for herself. The excerpt below clearly demonstrates it  doesn’t matter how and where  we write as long as it helps us to keep writing.

If  you are really  interested in memoir writing you must read the rest of this inspiring interview Maya Angelou, The Art of Fiction No. 119


You once told me that you write lying on a made-up bed with a bottle of sherry, a dictionary, Roget’s Thesaurus, yellow pads, an ashtray, and a Bible….


And is the bottle of sherry for the end of the day or to fuel the imagination?


I might have it at six-fifteen a.m. just as soon as I get in, but usually it’s about eleven o’clock when I’ll have a glass of sherry.


When you are refreshed by the Bible and the sherry, how do you start a day’s work?


I have kept a hotel room in every town I’ve ever lived in. I rent a hotel room for a few months, leave my home at six, and try to be at work by six-thirty. To write, I lie across the bed, so that this elbow is absolutely encrusted at the end, just so rough with callouses. I never allow the hotel people to change the bed, because I never sleep there. I stay until twelve-thirty or one-thirty in the afternoon, and then I go home and try to breathe; I look at the work around five; I have an orderly dinner—proper, quiet, lovely dinner; and then I go back to work the next morning. Sometimes in hotels I’ll go into the room and there’ll be a note on the floor which says, Dear Miss Angelou, let us change the sheets. We think they are moldy. But I only allow them to come in and empty wastebaskets. I insist that all things are taken off the walls. I don’t want anything in there. I go into the room and I feel as if all my beliefs are suspended. Nothing holds me to anything. No milkmaids, no flowers, nothing. I just want to feel and then when I start to work I’ll remember. I’ll read something, maybe the Psalms, maybe, again, something from Mr. Dunbar, James Weldon Johnson. And I’ll remember how beautiful, how pliable the language is, how it will lend itself.


Second Meeting Sydney Memoir Writers Meetup Group

My   Skeletons and Dirty Linen blog has been silent since the beginning of May, but my life is now on an even keel again and  I am about to publish some new pieces very soon.  Make  sure you subscribe to my blog so you can be notified when these happen.

We had a great get-together of the Sydney Memoir Writers Meetup Group on Sunday August 4 at Berkelouw Books Paddington.  Lots of interchange of the ideas and experiences from the ten writers on theme of the insecurity we all experience about the quality of our writing.  Most of us read a two-minute piece that had been written since the last Meetup.  What didn’t surprise me was the writers who had the most reservations about the own work had actually written some of the best pieces.  In my own experience fear of failure inevitably forces us from the shallows to the deeper places where the truth is more likely to lie.

We also discussed Gore Vida’s memoir Palimpsest He opens his book with a suggestion that A Tissue of Lies would have been a more persuasively apt title for a memoir.  He boasts at having gone ‘mano a mano’  with some of the great liars of his time, and whether we should draw any lines between fiction and fact. This led to a great Meetup discussion on where and when it is ok to make stuff up.

Several people described the success they had to managing their writing time using the Pomodoro technique we discussed at out last Meetup. The Pomodoro is a simple and clever time management system that splits everything you do into 25-minute modules.  I use it for everything including cleaning the bathroom. It’s inventor, Francesco Cirillo, claims it eliminates the anxiety of time. It is a mystery to me why it works, but this is exactly what it does.   Have a look for yourself if  you’re interested.


About Eileen Naseby


In 2006 Murdoch Books published ‘Ursula- A Voyage of Love and Danger’, my mother’s memoir. I am now in the process of completing a work of fiction.

Email me at: en(at)eileennaseby(dot)com

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